Monday, August 1, 2011

Personality

In my previous blog on my uncle one of my favorite lines was "The way how a presence of a person makes difference to your life is a complete one hundred percent perceptional feeling and cannot be expressed how much ever articulate you try be". Today, one of my cousins ,whom I have always respected and admired for taking a aggressive approach in all that she does and has really been her success weapon, wanted some views on ''Personality traits - are they primarily inherited or influenced by environment?". I just quickly wrote few lines about my views on the topic and sent her. What I later realized was that it had a strong connection or may be should I call it an extension of what I wrote in my previous blog. If that was on a particular individual, the one that I wrote on personality caters to individuals in general. I was really amazed with the coincidence. Anyways, here is what I wrote,

Personality traits - are they primarily inherited or influenced by environment?

Personality for me is a relative term. It is what others see in an individual. But an individual himself is driven by his mind. Mind is an embodiment of thoughts. Man tries to convert his thoughts into action, completely or partially, depending upon his determination or will to act.


Now what are thoughts? We are all born with a blank mind. As we start growing, we start to think in our language, get influenced by our parents, teachers, friends and other people around you in that order. So these thoughts push an individual to perform his/her actions until he/she reaches adulthood.


Adulthood exposes an individual to a whole new world. In adulthood an individual has a choice to become a Scientist, a businessman, a politician, a leader, a philosopher and a worker. Now none of these are a conscious effort by an individual to become a personality.


Personality is a culmination of thoughts of childhood and adulthood. No one can ever feel one’s own personality for it is never a conscious effort to become one. It is for others to see in that individual as to what he is.


Bottomline: A personality can never be primarily inherited. It was, it is and it will continue to be influenced by the environment.


The penultimate line which goes, " No one can ever feel one’s own personality, for, it is never a conscious effort to become one. It is for others to see in that individual as to what he is", primarily forms the crux of my previous blog on my uncle.



Vishnu Sarma

Thursday, July 7, 2011

A Man with a difference






I always had penchant for people who led their lives differently. The whole fun in interacting with such people is that the more you try to extract their mind the lesser you will understand them. And nonetheless to say there's a kind of thrill in it. But sometime down the lane they would have made a huge difference in your life. In the attempt to understand/imitate/ape/just do what that particular individual is/had been doing, you would have made your own individuality yourself.

As a kid I remember meeting this man at the Hyderabad airport(the old one at the Begumpet) when he had come down to spend some leisure time with us in between his otherwise tight schedule and there he looked to me like the quintessential businessman in our the then Hindi films. He being my mom's brother and she being the only sister, I got to hear stories after stories about him, before I met him at the airport. My weak memory now filled with all the adulthood junk doesn't let me remember any of those moments that I got to spend with him while he was at Hyderabad. After he left and during the years I grew, I became more interested to learn about him. The way how a presence of a person makes difference to your life is a complete one hundred percent perceptional feeling and cannot be expressed how much ever articulate you try be. And thats exactly what I felt. In the days when you got to see majority of men or for that matter, working individuals for whom ending their day's work was as important as being at work in time, here was a man who was working on his will, travelling round the globe at his will, in-short was dictating his life instead the other way round which was the way of life for all other individuals I knew during that time. And added to that he being the only Engineering grad in the whole family lot that I knew, obviously there was a foolish affinity towards engineering. The fact that I opted for a Electrical Engineering degree while he was into mechanical is a proof that how I successfully screwed up my understanding of him. For if I had atleast made an attempt to understand what he was doing, the kind of stuff that he was into, using my otherwise dumbass brain I might have looked at my life differently.

So there I was among the whole lot of post high school students getting into a engineering degree with a huge million dollar question inside me of why I chose to study Electrical Engineering?Was it because I wanted to be like him for what was he? Did I know him better? Do I have a path defined in the coming days to travel alongside him in a similar journey as his? With the academic structure and the peer group around me the reason why I chose to enter into such a degree completely died inside me. So by the time I came out of the 4 year grind I was a confused alien on a novice planet. Human mind is so adamant that though to the world you look like a soul living life as it comes, it is meanwhile caught in a staunch retrospection though you tend to oppose it. And this phase of retrospection began as soon as I got out of my college with my degree.
During the days when I was on a job hunt post my bachelor's degree I got disturbed and disappointed at the huge crowd wanting to enter the firms which were into information technology services. No doubt they had the grandeur appeal to attract the just graduated crowd and just in a short span they would all be in an attire same as my uncle when I first met him at the Hyderabad airport. So is that all it took to become like him? that's all ? if that was all today I tell you it takes nothing. But that's not true. There was something else. While I might have easily got embroiled into one such firms my perception of him came back alive like a live wire. I immedietly swore to myself that I will rather make some pennies doing odd jobs and not get into such firms. My short stint at a call center further reaffirmed my decision. All said and done, today when I am part of a global team designing interfaces for a renowned car brand I take a childish pride in myself for doing something that I love to do. What I am doing is not even a one hundredth of a fraction of what he did or what he might go on to do but the kind of understanding my tiny little brain has got of this extraordinary individual is that the feeling is the same. Both of us are doing what we like to do. Three cheers to my uncle who taught me through his presence that there is a different way of looking at life.