I,like many, have got my views on the
school of marriage and thought of expressing them through this blog. My
analysis on marriage is more from the aspect of Cause & Effect
which obviously is a most convenient way to look at the reality of the world.
German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche in his book 'Beyond Good and Evil' said
"The same emotions are in man and woman, but in different TEMPO, on that
account man and woman never cease to misunderstand each other." Ever since
the time mankind has progressed into a society living, moving on rapidly from
the ape phase, the concept of marriage seems to get as complicated as possible.
Humans by natural tendency get attracted to an effect rather than the
cause. Numerous philosophers in the West and the East have dealt with the
concept of metaphysics and religion. Their intentions were
clear which was to ponder over how to construct a healthy form of society so as
to curb Human's natural instincts. So, what are natural instincts when it
involves a man and woman? Lets analyze the cause that brings man and woman
together (by this we can safely consider 'Marriage' as an effect). Every
human being's ultimate goal in life is to be happy. By happiness we mean
satisfying a man's will , may it be desire,object, feelings and every other
subforms that is associated with a Man's will. By natural law a man is
attracted to a woman. In the due course of his life, a man
meets a woman, for whatever reasons decides to spend his life with the woman
with the sole motive that his happiness can be further enhanced. At that time
if a similar thought is ripe in the woman she will reciprocate and thus the two
decide to start living together. Now, this is a cause which I am sure many of
you reading this blog would agree. Now lets analyze marriage. From the
times of ancient civilization irrespective of region or religion, marriage has
been looked at as an event where in friends and families are expected to
gather to symbolize the beginning of living together of the man and the
woman. So what caused as a personal interest in the mind of man and woman is
now being witnessed by people who are considered as friends and family of that
man and woman. Let us look at whom do we want to include in the group
of friends and family mainly from the viewpoint of the man and woman.
Barring parents and siblings, other members of families and mainly friends are
the ones whom the man and woman chose to be surrounded with for their personal
interests in the years of their growing up. All these people what form a
Society from the point of view of the man and woman getting married. This gives
rise to that one big question, Marriage to Society OR Society to Marriage ? And
it doesn't stop there. Marriage gets the law of the land involved too. Now let
us go back to the Cause. What caused as a thought and desire in the mind of a
man and woman, will have to involve all that we discussed above (Society+Law of
land) to take its effect. Now let us analyze human mind from the thought, will,
desire and feelings standpoint. All of these are given at a particular time and
circumstance. Going by the cliche, "Change is the only constant entity in
life", every man and woman is bound to this change which will lead all
together a new zone of mindset wherein the same thought of living together may
not be ripe in either or both. But now the couple are in the 'Effect'
(Marriage) zone that involves (Society+Law). From this time onwards they will
have to work from Effect backwards to the Cause the travel of which is
cumbersome to the core completely in contrast with the travel from Cause to
Effect. While it is nearly impossible to lay absolute opinion on the concept of marriage, I tried my best to condense my views and put it together as a blog post.
Bottomline: The above lines reflect my thoughts on Marriage which is accepted by many as a means for the Society to progress. But who exactly are we talking about when we say Society? What started as personal interest in the minds of that particular man and woman, how ridiculous it is to involve the Law and Society for supervision of a Marriage ?
Vishnu Sarma
